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Kathyjms
4 min readSep 10, 2021

And if you’re tired of being single, here’s how to alter that.

Are you a woman who is continually rejected, cheated on, and led about by guys who refuse to commit?
Have you ever had a boyfriend break up with you, then maneuver his way back into your life just to stomp on your heart again?
You’ve come to the right place…

The bad news is that it’s partially your fault (which you may not want to hear and will almost certainly get a barrage of negative feedback for).

Some guys are dishonest.

You have no control over it.

The good news is that you can change the type of weak behavior that low-quality guys use to repeatedly manipulate your emotions.

You may also present yourself as a lady who is much more appealing to the kind of strong, honest guy who would never break your heart.

If you’re ready for some straight-talking dating advise…

Continue reading.

Stop being a softie.

Have you ever simply “gone along” with a guy or altered your mind on a subject because you believed he desired it?

I’m not talking about little matters like where you want to eat or what movie you want to watch…

(but in the early stages of a relationship, it’s an excellent location to look for that behavior pattern to emerge)

What if he’s a die-hard baseball fan?

And you’ve never seen a sporting event before?

Are you going to purchase a shirt, sit in on all of his games, and tell everyone about your new favorite team?

What about the major events?

Such is getting married or starting a family.

If a guy declares:

“I don’t want to get married or have children.”

Do you agree with such viewpoint as well?

It’s perfectly OK if you don’t want to marry or have children.

But…

If you look deep within…

When a guy you’re dating says something like this, your heart sinks a bit. How do you respond?

Are you scared of upsetting your partner so you bite your tongue and opt to bottle up your true feelings?

Men do not appreciate women who have a lack of self-control.

If you have such pliable principles and ideas that you would bend them to suit a guy, he would never respect you.

And no matter how much a guy claims to love you, if he doesn’t respect you, he doesn’t really love you.

So, what’s the answer?

Increase the Strength of Your Boundaries

Powerful guys are attracted to strong women.

They like being tested.

They really look forward to the challenge and actively seek it out.

It’s critical to have values in common with your spouse.

However, you do not have to agree on everything.

You don’t have to share all of the same hobbies, however.

You’ll wind up with a shattered heart if you sacrifice what makes you uniquely you simply to satisfy a guy… guaranteed.

The last thing a guy wants to do is date himself.

He wants to date a lady who is aware of her own identity.

He wants a lady who is confident enough in herself to tell him “no” or “you’re incorrect.” He’s looking for a lady who will push him and argue with him on key issues.

He also wants a lady who isn’t scared to put her relationship with him on hold in order to pursue genuine happiness with someone else.

When a guy believes he is about to lose you, he will go to any length to retain you.

Embrace the Deadlock

You’ll sometimes come to a stalemate with the person you’re dating.

You’ll set strong limits for yourself, and they’ll set firm boundaries for themselves.

Accept that this connection was never meant to be and respect your conflicting wishes. Then proceed.

It’s much too short of a life to settle for a guy who doesn’t value the same things you do.

You’ll exude a calm, seductive confidence that men find attractive when you become clear on what you want out of a relationship and stand strong in your desire.

If you’re not sure how to develop this sort of inner power, here are some suggestions.

Just two words:

Be choosy.

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